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What's Your Attachment Style?

This 12-item questionnaire measures two key dimensions of adult attachment: anxiety (how much you worry about relationships) and avoidance (how uncomfortable you feel with closeness). Together, they reveal where you fall on the attachment map.

Answer honestly — there are no right or wrong responses. Each item uses a 7-point scale from Strongly Disagree to Strongly Agree.

⚠️ Before you begin: This is an educational tool, not a clinical diagnosis. Attachment styles exist on a spectrum and can shift over time with awareness and healthy relationships. If you find some questions bring up difficult feelings, that's normal — and worth exploring.

📊 Attachment Style Quiz

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📈 Your Scores

🔴 Attachment Anxiety —

🔵 Closeness Avoidance —

🗺️ Your Position on the Attachment Map

The dot shows exactly where you land on the anxiety–avoidance grid.

Your identified style based on ECR-12 scoring

💬 What it looks like in relationships

🌱 Where it often comes from

🌿 Growing toward security

How is this scored? Items are scored on a 1–7 scale. Each subscale is averaged (6 items each) and converted to a 1–100 scale. Percentile estimates are based on published norms from Wei et al. (2007) and Fraley & Shaver (2000). The cutoff between quadrants is the scale midpoint (score = 50). Learn more about the ECR →

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